Counseling Services
Self Help Resources
A Variety of Self-Help Books Are Available in Jackson Library (near the copy machines) (provided as a service of Lander University Counseling Services)
The Anger Workbook by Les Carter by Les Carter Ph.D and Frank Minirth, M.D.
A step-by-step plan to help you understand how unmet needs can feed anger, realize how other emotions can influence anger, and find healthy ways to express and control your anger.
Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne
This practical workbook contains a complete discussion of phobias and anxiety disorders and suggests step-by-step methods of treating them. Each chapter concludes with a summary of "Things to Do". The book includes questionnaires and exercises.
Asserting Yourself by Bower and Bower
Use Asserting Yourself to raise your self-esteem. Learn how to state your needs assertively and respond to the reactions of others. The book also includes self-assessments and techniques to reduce your stress.
Beer, Booze, and Books by Jim Matthews
“Don’t let the time of your life ruin the rest of your life.” This book can help you gain a clearer understanding of the role alcohol may be playing in your life and the lives of your peers. Personal stories from students across the country are included. If you recognize the title, it’s because the author was also a favorite speaker here at Lander.
The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
The Courage to Heal offers hope and encouragement to every woman who was sexually abused as a child - and those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and potentially severe, healing is possible. Personal experiences along with clinical knowledge show the reader how to cope with the past while moving powerfully into the future. Clear explanations, practical suggestions, and a map of the healing journey provide a guide for how to move forward.
Date Smart! How to Stop Revolving and Start Evolving in Your Relationships by David Coleman “The Dating Doctor” and M. Richard Doyle
Are you stuck in a revolving door of bad dates? Or maybe you’ve given up on finding a meaningful relationship. With quizzes and other self-assessment tools, the authors show you how to pinpoint your dating challenges so that you can focus on choosing and attracting the right one for you. One of the authors may be familiar to you from the Creative Dating program held here at Lander.
The Everything Dating Book by Leah and Elina Furman
Written for the millions of single people looking for just the right person, this handbook gives concrete tips and suggestions for meeting new people and navigating the dating world.
Family Secrets, What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You by John Bradshaw
This book takes us into the heart of the family's mysterious power to impact our lives. It
explores how secrets are created, how they influence us and the risks we take in exploring them.
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
The book is filled with concrete techniques to turn passivity into assertiveness. Dr. Jeffers teaches you how to stop negative thinking patterns and reeducate your mind to think more positively. You will learn: the vital 10-Step Positive Thinking Process; how to risk a little every day; and how to turn every decision into a “No-Lose” situation.
Feeling Good by David D. Burns, M.D.
A classic winner in self-help books that utilizes the therapeutic approach known as cognitive therapy. This book teaches you how to change your thoughts to alleviate anxiety, guilt, pessimism, low self-esteem and other aspects of depression. The book also continues a depression checklist and discussion about antidepressant medication.
50 Ways to Love Your Leaver; Getting on With Your Life After the Breakup by Dwight Webb, Ph.D.
You aren’t going crazy and you will survive a breakup! Use this book for hope and encouragement at the end of an intimate relationship. You can learn how to let go of denial, blame, and anger while finding help for your grief and loss.
Gay and Lesbian Self Esteem Book by Kimeron N. Hardin, Ph.D
Gays and lesbians have unique challenges in developing a positive self esteem while living in a society that struggles with sexual orientation issues. This book also deals with the challenges Gays and Lesbians may have faced as children.
How To Be An Adult by David Richo
Using the metaphor of the heroic journey, struggle, and return, the author shows readers the path to mature psychological and spiritual health.
How To Raise Your Self-Esteem
by Nathaniel Branden
Comforting and optimistic, this important self-help book is filled with step-by-step techniques for developing and strengthening feelings of self-worth. Readers are shown how they can raise self-confidence, self-esteem, and commit themselves to happier, healthier lives.
Keeping The Love You Find by Harville Hedrix, Ph.D
As seen on Oprah, here is the New York Times bestseller for singles looking to find and keep the love of their lives. Explore your relationship patterns as you open yourself up to a lasting relationship.
Listen to Your Body; A Head-to Toe Guide to More than 400 Common Symptoms, Their Causes, and Best Treatments by Ellen Michaud, Lila L. Anasatas and Prevention Magazine
If there was ever an exhaustive book of every symptom imaginable – this seems to be it. Find out if there is a simple solution to your symptom or if you need to have it checked out by a physician.
Making Peace With Food by Susan Kano
For the millions of women who struggle with weight, this volume offers sound suggestions for beating the diet/weight obsession. Scientifically proven information counteracts common misconceptions about dieting, weight, and body image.
Making Peace With Your Parents by Harold Bloomfield
Resolving conflicts with your parents can be a first step towards enriching your life and all of your relationships.
Procrastination by Jane B. Burka and Lenora M. Yuen
Procrastination is a problem that strikes millions of people in every walk of life. The authors pinpoint several causes of procrastination and show how to shake this tendency once and for all.
The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook by Martha Davis Ph.D, Elizabeth Robbins Eshelman, M.S.W. and Matthey McKay, Ph.D.
Step-by-step directions for mastery of breathing, progressive relaxation, meditation, self-hypnosis, visualization, coping skills, assertiveness, time management, and other relaxers.
The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, M.D.
Confronting and solving problems is a painful process, which most of us attempt to avoid. Dr. M. Scott Peck, a practicing psychiatrist, suggests ways in which confronting and resolving our problems can enable us to reach a higher level of self-understanding.
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
The #1 National Bestseller is a personal leadership handbook for solving personal and professional problems. Covey reveals a step-by-step guide for living life with fairness, integrity, honesty, and dignity.
Sex for Dummies by Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer
Vowing to educate and inform millions of people about sex in a fun and interesting way, Dr. Ruth Westheimer provides a complete guide to sex in the '90s, featuring information that all sexually active people should be aware of. EVERYONE can learn something from this book.
Stop Studying Start Learning or How to Jump-Start Your Brain by Richmard Fenker, Ph.D.
Learning is not as much about putting in the time as it is having good technique. This book gives concrete examples for how to deal with distractions, improve memory and concentration. There is also a guide for progressive relaxation – an experience that many Lander students love. The book is humorous, short, and an easy read.
Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
Free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents—and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence. The book specifically addresses parents who are physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive as well as parents who are addicted to alcohol or other drugs.
The Unofficial Guide to Quitting Smoking by Donna Howell
You already know how dangerous smoking can be to your health and you’ve tried to quit numerous times, all unsuccessful. To really kick the habit, you need knowledge about smoking addiction, a plan to become and stay smoke-free, and tools to make quitting as easy as possible.
What To Say When You Talk To Your Self by Shad Helmstetter
Learn the techniques to talk to yourself in an exceptionally effective new way. You can learn specific strategies for replacing negative self-talk with reaffirming messages to accomplish your goals and dreams.
Counseling Services also has a variety of audio and video cassettes available for checkout from the Department of Counseling Services (3rd floor, Grier Center). Although self-help resources can be a valuable source of information and assistance, they do not replace the assistance of a counselor. Please don’t hesitate to contact a member of Counseling Services if we can be of help.
All books are available to checkout for up to 2 weeks with a valid Lander I.D.
